This month my Java's will expand on 3 of the questions in the quiz given in the newsletter.  These deal with forcing yourself, avoiding conflict, and subordinating your own needs to that of others.  This week the question was true or false:  I hate conflict, so I'll do whatever it takes to avoid it, which often means doing something I don't want to do.

"If you avoid conflict to keep the peace you start a war within yourself." -- Anon

Can you relate to that quote?  I think we have all done things from time to time to keep the peace or make someone else happy even though it wasn't something we wanted.  To lower your stress in this area, make this practice the exception, not the rule.

Today's coaching challenge

 Where in your life and with whom do you avoid conflict at all costs?

When you do something just to keep the peace with someone, how much of yourself are you giving away?  The next time you are tempted to just avoid conflict take a moment to think of other possible actions or outcomes.

Action to take

What could you do differently that avoids conflict and keeps your needs intact at the same time?

Always supporting you,                                                                                                                                                                                                  Jan

P.S.  If you need a little help coming up with ideas click here for my free First Step Away From Stress call. 


Jan Cerasaro
When You Control Your Stress: Your Change Can Be Easy