This month the topic is forgiveness. This is a vast subject that can be needed for something as little as a slight transgression or as serious as a divorce or violence against a loved one. For the sake of the discussion this month we will look at the mid-range of things to forgive and your response to what has happened. Forgiving is something you do for yourself, not for the person who has wronged you. This week let's discuss the emotions/feelings that are involved.
"I'm sad, hurt, angry, mad, and disappointed. But you know what? I'll put on a smile and move on. It will hurt, but I will survive." --- Anon
You might experience a gambit of emotions when someone has done you wrong and it's important that you give some time to the emotions you are feeling so you can get them out in the open. Once you are aware of whether you are hurt, sad, or disappointed you can then start the process of communicating with the other person about how you are feeling.
Today's Coaching Challenge
Most people don't set out to hurt others and may not be aware of how you have been affected by something they have said or done. If you were the offending party think of how good it would feel if it was discussed with you so you could become aware and change your actions in the future.
With so much of our communication coming electronically the chances for a misunderstanding grow exponentially, which means you can just as easily be the offending party as often as the other person.
Action to take
It's very common to not want to discuss your feelings with the other person and play it off as "No big deal". However, if you never tell them that they did something that affected you how could they possibly change and not repeat the offense? Is there something you have not brought up and would like to get resolved?
Always supporting you, Jan
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