This month we are looking at personal boundaries.  Putting up a fence on your property is setting a physical boundary however, it doesn't mean that you don't like people or want to spend time with others. Having personal boundaries and sharing them makes interactions with others easier and allows you to be treated the way you wish.  This week is about creating a boundary instead of a wall.


"Walls keep everybody out.  Boundaries teach them where the door is."---Mark Groves

People may create a wall with the idea that it will protect them from being hurt, however, it also keeps other people out and they may very well be the people to help you heal the hurt.  A boundary is just your own personal rules about how others should treat you and what you are comfortable with.

Today's Coaching Challenge

If you have built up a wall because of something that happened to you in the past, who are you keeping out that had nothing to do with that hurt?  Wouldn't it feel liberating to lower your wall enough so that the people that want to love you could get in?

Does the original reason for the wall even exist anymore?

Action to take

A boundary is just a personal rule like not taking a phone after 9 PM, or telling your family that during a certain time you will be working out and you will attend to them after that.  What boundary would you like to create today so that people can start treating you the way you would like to be treated? 

Always supporting you,                                                                                                                                                                                                  Jan

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