This month the topic is forgiveness.  This is a vast subject that can be needed for something as little as a slight transgression or as serious as a divorce or violence against a loved one.  For the sake of the discussion this month we will look at the mid-range of things to forgive and your response to what has happened.  Forgiving is something you do for yourself, not for the person who has wronged you. This week let's look at letting go of blaming the other person.

"It's always easy to blame others.  You can spend your entire life blaming the world, but your successes and failures are entirely your own responsibility." ---Anon

During a normal day whether you are watching the news or interacting with someone, there are numerous opportunities to decide that you feel slighted by someone's words, actions, or opinions.  However, at the end of the day, it is up to you what you do with those judgments.  Are you offended, do you think they are wrong, or do you just let it go and move on with your day? 

Today's Coaching Challenge

We are all entitled to our opinions and responsible for our actions.  The only person that can control how something is perceived is you.  You may feel angry or upset but you did that to yourself based on judgments that you made about a situation or words spoken

People who are in the habit of blaming others say things like "You made me angry, or you hurt my feelings".  If you are taking responsibility for your actions and life the conversation would be "I feel angry, or my feelings are hurt".  There is no need for finger-pointing because you are just stating how you feel.  Let's face it the person whom you are blaming has moved on and you are the one left suffering because you didn't take responsibility for the perceived injustice.

Action to take

Is there anything in your life that gets better when you blame someone else?  If not, what could you let go of today that you have been holding on to so you can just forgive and move on? 

Always supporting you,                                                                                                                                                                                                  Jan

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Jan Cerasaro
When You Control Your Stress: Your Change Can Be Easy