PERSONAL NOTE

It's the beginning of October and a bit of a transition time.  In many areas, at least some of the days are getting cooler with a crispness to the air, and yet it's not quite the start of the holiday season.  Once we get to Halloween the holiday season is on.   I don't know about you but I have been diligent about ignoring the Halloween candy that has been on display in the grocery store for the past month.  I try to only buy the candy right before Halloween and take the left-over, if any, to my bank so they can pass it out to the customers.  Okay, maybe minus a couple of pieces.  I have found if I stick to that plan then I don't succumb to the temptation.  Keep your fingers crossed for me that it works again this year. 

ARTICLE

How to Be a Time Shifter

If time were an animal, it would be on the endangered species list. At least that’s how it seems in America: Too much to do, too many places to be, too little time to do it all.

On the job, in school, at home, we are increasingly imprisoned by the perception that time is a scarce and limited resource. We rush from one commitment or activity to another and believe that we haven’t a minute to spare. We yearn for more time, yet we often feel anxious and guilty when idle.

Is this how life is supposed to be?

No! Nor does it have to be.

But until we change our relationship to time, our lives will continue to speed away from us—at enormous cost to our health and to direct experience of ourselves and the world around us.

“There is no issue, no aspect of human life, that exceeds this in importance,” says Jacob Needleman, author of Time and the Soul. “The destruction of time is literally the destruction of life.”

When we learn to shift time, our relationships become more rewarding, our time spent alone is richer, our aging is more satisfying, our work is more fruitful and our stress and anxiety are less paralyzing, or even nonexistent.

To allow time to “breathe” more in your life, try some or all of the following suggestions from Stephan Rechtschaffen, author of Timeshifting, as well as others. See if your reservoir of time starts to refill.

Pause. Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Han suggests taking a deep breath before answering the phone. Other conscious pauses throughout the day—a moment of silence before each meal, sitting in the car a few minutes before entering the house after work—help us to “come home” to ourselves.

Carve out idle time alone. The Greek philosopher Aristotle noted that “nature requires us not only to be able to work well but also to idle well.” Just because you’re not doing anything doesn’t mean that nothing’s getting done!

Live as fully as possible in the present moment. When we leave behind thoughts of the past or future, we can experience time more peacefully, says Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now.

Toss your schedule whenever you can. Even better, schedule some spontaneous time and then surprise yourself.

Examine underlying reasons for your busyness. What emotions would you experience if you weren’t so busy? What would you wish for? Emotional work is challenging but essential if we are to stop running from our hearts.

Play. Whether you sing, wrestle, paint, shake your bootie—whatever—play helps us to step outside of ordinary time.

Create time retreats. Once a year or so, choose to do something for a week or more that allows you to shift into a different rhythm—something where you can just “be” without the need for doing anything.

Spend time in nature. We can’t help but slow down in nature’s unhurried pace. Watching a soaring bird or examining a flower can seem to stretch a minute into an hour.

We can learn to experience time more purposefully and meaningfully—so that it’s not an enemy robbing us of the joy of life. We needn’t be at time’s mercy. When we change our awareness, we can actually experience the gifts of time. 

COOL RESOURCE

If you are interested in checking out the book Time Shifting: Creating More Time to Enjoy Your Life here's a link to Amazon. (This link is included for your convenience, I do Not get a commission from Amazon.)  https://tinyurl.com/58ke6u5u

UPCOMING EVENTS

Well, there have been some changes since last month.  It's been so much fun putting together this new presentation and I look forward to sharing it with CA and AZ soon.  It's titled How to Reduce Your Stress Without Quitting Your Job.

I reported last month that I would be attending the Annual Conference for the California Escrow Association to earn my designation credits and meet up with old friends.  Since that writing, I have been asked to be one of the presenters so I will be providing a session on Saturday, Oct 9th between 1:30 and 2:30.  Please come up and say "Hi" if you are attending.

October 21st I'm doing another Stress Tips session for the San Gabriel Valley Escrow Association.

November 13th I will be the Keynote speaker for the Arizona State Escrow Association Annual Conference being held in Sedona, AZ.

I look forward to continuing my service to the escrow community. 

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Stay safe, healthy and happy!

Coach Jan  


Jan Cerasaro
When You Control Your Stress: Your Change Can Be Easy